It Is As Simple as Hopes & Dreams
A Few Easy Steps and You Become the Person You Want To Be
You have no way to change the past, no one can change your past, but you have total control over what the future will be. Each step forward is a choice…It is as simple as hopes & dreams.
Who do you want to become, what are the things that make you happy. When you look at what you have chosen to do today do any of those activities take you in that direction? If you are telling yourself it costs too much, there is no time that you will never be good enough; you are choking yourself on your own bullshit.
If you’re looking to feel that sense of exhilaration that comes with beginning down the path to your hopes and dreams, but don’t know where to start, you may find the hints below useful.
Say Something That You Have Been Meaning To Say
- Tell someone how you really feel about them, count to 3 and take the leap.
- Tell someone what you really want and need instead holding all that inside you.
- Share your fears publicly, do it in writing, say it out loud to a friend or family member.
- Share your dreams, and ask your friends to hold you accountable in pursuing them.
- Talk openly about how you really spend your time. Brainstorm with friends on how to improve this.
- Introduce yourself to someone you’ve been dying to meet. Count to three, reach out your hand, and tell them who you are.
- Ask someone who’s done what you want to do for advice and encouragement.
- Tell your boss what you can do, what you are capable of doing, instead of wondering if you’ll ever move forward professionally.
- Tell yourself the about the changes you want to make in your life.
Find a Way to Try That Something You Always wanted to Try
- Sign up for a class to learn a skill you’ve always thought would be fun.
- If you can’t afford a class, look on Craigslist for free events related to that interest.
- Ask a friend to teach you to do something you don’t know how to do and offer to teach them something else in return, barter works in most of the world.
- Take that new class at your gym instead of worrying that you won’t be able to keep up.
- Buy a new or used instrument and look for instructional videos on YouTube (there actually wonderful options there). Be creative and you will find answers.
- Think of something you’d enjoy creating; a blanket, a song, or a small piece of furniture, and then do some research today to take the first step in doing it.
- Find a blog, website, or circle of friends who can keep you going.
- Invite a few of your friends to play a sport you’ve always wanted to try, even if you fear failure.
- Make a list of things you think you’d enjoy, and then pick one you’ve never done to try this weekend.
Go Somewhere You Have Always Wanted to Go
- Plan a vacation to that destination you’ve always dreamed about visiting. Get maps, start collecting information.
- If you can’t afford that, research cheap ways to travel; stay in hostels, volunteering abroad, or transporting someone else’s car, for example. I have a friend who has seen many parts of the world by volunteering for non-profits and staying with families in host countries.
- Nothing is impossible for the resourceful make it happen.
- Take a weekend road trip to somewhere close you’ve always wanted to visit. What is within 30 miles of your home, 60 miles, or 90 miles? What is reachable with in a day’s travel?
- Write down your three favorite hobbies and for each, a place you’ve always wanted to try; go this weekend.
- Invite friends to a restaurant, bar, or other establishment you’ve wanted to try, but have avoided in favor or familiarity. I have a friend who will take a dozen people with him and call ahead asking for a group discount to make the cost more reasonable.
- If you’ve avoided going to a new spot because it’s expensive, start a savings jar today, and make that a priority.
- Make a list of fun day trips in your area. Schedule at least two of them for the next month. Start to use your calendar as a tool.
- If there’s a conference you’ve always wanted to attend, book your ticket for next year, or see if you can volunteer there to get free or discounted attendance. Venues with live performances are always looking for event staff.
- Plan some type of creative travel project, once a week, or even month, but carve out time on a regular basis.
Do Something That Has Always Been On the “Can’t Do” List
- Jot down three qualities you’d like to possess, then three choices or activities that coincide with them. Make a plan to do that thing.
- Enlist a friend to help you face your fear. If you are afraid of heights, but love the mountains take a friend. It is amazing what you can accomplish with the aid of a friend.
- Create a positive affirmation to replace a limiting belief. Tell yourself, “I feel confident around new people” instead of “I can’t meet new people, I’m too nervous”.
- Think of something huge you’ve wanted to do, but feared you can’t. Shrink it down to something smaller (baby steps) but related (climbing Rainer could start with modest mountain hikes.) Do that smaller thing today…It’s a start.
- Make a list of what things make you happy and what makes you sad; craft your events so they include the skills, or activities that pull from the happy list. Take one small step every day to work toward your goals.
- Ask yourself, “What would I try if I thought I wouldn’t fail and money was no object.” Take one tiny step toward that goal today, not tomorrow, today.
- Ask a friend or your significant other to design an “opposite night” for you, nights that take you totally out of your comfort zone.
The goal is to do things that make you feel passionate, excited, and exhilarated.